“Normal” relationships are, more often than not, heterosexual in nature — and for the most part, penile-centric. By “normal”, I mean traditional, boy-and-girl, man-and-woman; By “heterosexual”, I mean being sexually oriented to a person of the opposite sex. By “penile-centric”, I mean that they revolve around the man’s penis and its need to penetrate the vagina and to ejaculate.
Women have been brought up thinking that they should obey the penis. On their marriage beds, they were instructed to lie and spread their legs. Women are subordinate to men, they say. Centuries of being submissive have made women defiant — ergo, Freud declared that they have this problem called “penis envy”. This statement have made women angrier and as a result, we now have terms like “feminism”, “gender equality”, “sexual harassment”, “rape”, and “lesbians”.
However, some women still prefer being their “normal”, subservient selves. Not that there is anything wrong with that. It’s just that a “normal ” relationship has, well, less complications than, say, a polyamorous one. Well, it might not be as exciting, but being “normal” has some of its benefits — one of which is exclusivity. Meaning, “normal couples” don’t need to worry about their partner looking for “an extra pair of hands”. Some “normal couples” like to have sex daily. For others, once or twice a month is enough. Whichever the case maybe, “normal relationships” remain sexually exclusive. [I consider myself the bi-monthly type. Regardless, my relationship with my man could still be categorized as a “normal relationship” because of the obvious fact that it’s a man-fucking-woman setup.] You get my drift?
However, the term “normal” is relative. And I can almost see you fidgeting in your seat…itching to give me a lashing for practically calling you “abnormal”. Let me just say that — first, I’m not into S&M and second of all, I didn’t say that you’re abnormal. I only meant to say that traditionally, it has always been a man-woman equation and no gray areas in between. If you happened to be offended, why thank you for the compliment! But you have to admit — you are abnormal — in the most fundamental and truest sense of the word! Hey, if that’s your thing, by all means do it. Whatever floats your boat, right?
I have always believed in the importance of pleasure and satisfaction. I just never thought that there could be other countless, possible options “— aside from what’s “normal” — to achieve a happy sex life — no boundaries even!
Lo and behold! I give you the “Your-Parents-Know-You’re-Messed-Up-But-They-Wouldn’t-Want-To-Read-This-Because-You’re-In-It-And-They’re-Afraid-That-If-They-Look-Everything-Would-Suddenly-Become-Real-And-You’ll-Disappoint-Them-All-Over-Again“ list.
Oh, wait, perhaps I should name it “Your-Parents-Wouldn’t-Want-You-To-Read-This-Because-They’re-In-It-And-They’re-Afraid-That-They’ll-Get-Discovered-And-You’ll-Be-Disgusted-With-Them“ list.
I know…I know… it’s a mouthful, but read along anyway, you nincompoops!
refers to our biological sex, as determined by chromosomes and sexual organs; Consensual, intimate physical contact between individuals.
refers to our attraction to others of the same or opposite gender.
A social construct; in Western culture, it is typically divided between men and women/masculine and feminine. Behavior, appearance, and societal roles are differently defined for each gender. For most people, gender is their sex made visible.
refers to an individual’s identification with male or female gender roles and behaviors. Gender identity is independent from sexual orientation – there are feminine heterosexual men and gay women, and masculine gay men and heterosexual women.
refers to disorders of deviant sexuality called paraphillias (more commonly known as sexual perversions) which involve recurrent sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors that center around children, non-humans (animals, objects, materials), or harming others or one’s self.
refers to men or women who identify as feminine and they assume the female gender role.
refers to men or women who identify as masculine and they assume the male gender role.
A man or a woman who is emotionally, socially, and perhaps sexually attracted to the same sex. Watch the SAM MILBY–PIOLO PASCUAL scandal!
An umbrella term used for anything not heterosexual.
The preferred self-identifier of many contemporary gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Native Americans.
A woman who is emotionally and sexually attracted to other women. Other Variations for Lesbian: Dyke, Butch, Fem, Womin, Womyn (women who do not want the word “men” incorporated in to the word “women”).
A man who dresses in female clothes (“drag”) to impersonate a woman.
Women who dress like men and wish to be perceived as men — or perform in a nightclub.
A person who enjoys wearing clothes usually associated with the opposite of her/ his assigned sex or gender. Some cross dressers may identify as transgender.
A person who concludes their physical gender of birth does not align with the inner self that is both native and natural. While the medical/insurance community currently uses the term transsexuals for those that have completed genital surgery, those who choose to actually live in the gender opposite their birth consider themselves transsexuals regardless of surgery. See the “The Most Gorgeous Transexuals Fashion Show” below!
Often an umbrella term including transsexuals, cross-dressers, as well as people who identify as neither male nor female. Watch 7yr. old Jazz’s thoughts on being a Transgender Child!
is a neologism of the 2000s generally applied to heterosexual men with a strong concern for their appearance, and/or whose lifestyles display attributes stereotypically attributed to gay men.
Types of Sexual Orientations
People who are heterosexual are romantically and physically attracted to members of the opposite sex: Heterosexual males are attracted to females, and heterosexual females are attracted to males. Heterosexuals are sometimes called “straight.” [This is the “normal” way to go.]
People who are homosexual are romantically and physically attracted to people of the same sex: Females who are attracted to other females are lesbians; males who are attracted to other males are often known as gay. The term “gay” is sometimes also used to describe homosexual individuals of either gender. [However, some men who have sex with men do not necessarily mean that they are gay, nor would they want to be called gay. I do not know what they call themselves, but if a guy had sex with his fellow man, he is pretty much gay to me. Well, for the time being, let’s just leave it at “Unsure” or “Undetermined” or “?” if that’s alright with you. Because I don’t have the patience to wait until you figure out what you are or how you want to be called.] Let’s hear what this man over here has to say to all homosexual Christians out there!]
People who are bisexual are physically, emotionally and sexually attracted to either sex. [Bisexuals do not settle with just one sex because, as they say, why settle when you can have the best of both worlds, right? Well, if bisexuals think they have outwitted the heterosexual population…wait till you read about polyamorous individuals!]
Polyamory is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is an umbrella term that covers many orientations and modes of relationship. The word is sometimes used more broadly to refer to any sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies. Polyamorous relationships are themselves varied, reflecting the choices and philosophies of the individuals concerned. [Literally, polyamory means “many loves”. It just means that polyamorous individuals have multiple love relationships with men and women. They have primary male partner/s, a primary female partner/s, and various non-primary male partners and various non-primary female partners. Are you catching on? I’ll let Birgitta explain.]
is a sexual orientation characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love, or sexual desire for people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex. Some pansexuals suggest that they are gender-blind; that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others. The word pansexual is derived from the Greek prefix pan-, meaning “all”. In its simplest form, pansexuality denotes the potential of sexual attraction to all genders and beings. It is intended to negate the idea of two genders (as expressed by bi-). [This only means that they fuck “all” and anything that moves. No, I’m kidding. Honestly…I’m as lost as you are. Perhaps, dykesupreme can explain it better…but then again, maybe not!]
refers to people who are attracted to more than one gender or sex but do not wish to identify as bisexual because it implies that there are only two binary genders or sexes. Polysexuals are those people sexually attracted to many different sorts of ideas, species, and characteristics. Polysexuality should not be confused with pansexuality; pan meaning all, and poly meaning many though not necessarily all. [This means polysexual individuals are not as greedy as pansexuals who wanna do ’em all.]
is a sexual orientation describing individuals who do not experience sexual attraction or do not have interest in or desire for sex. Sometimes, it is considered a lack of a sexual orientation. [Just a note: asexuality is distinct from celibacy, which is the abstention from sexual activity. Believe it or not, some asexuals do have sex!]
Types of Sexual Relationships
having a single long-term sexual partner. Here are the different kinds of monogamy:
a. Social monogamy
refers to two persons/creatures who live together, have sex with one another, and cooperate in acquiring basic resources such as food, clothes, and money.
b. Sexual monogamy
refers to two persons/creatures who remain sexually exclusive with one another and have no outside sex partners.
c. Genetic monogamy
refers to two partners that only have offspring with one another.
d. Marital monogamy
refers to marriages of only two people.
e. Serial Monogamy
having a series of monogamous relationships, one after the other
a type of interpersonal relationships in which some or all participants have multiple marital, sexual, and/or romantic partners. Here are the different kinds of nonmonogamous relationships:
a. Casual relationship a physical and emotional relationship between two unmarried people who may have a sexual relationship
b. Group marriage (also termed polygynandry), in which several people form a single family unit, with all considered to be married to one another
c. Group sex and orgies involving more than two participants at the same time
d. Infidelity, such as an affair, in which one participant fails to comply with expectations of a relationship.
e. Line families, a form of group marriage intended to outlive its original members by ongoing addition of new spouses
f. Ménage à trois, a sexual (or sometimes domestic) arrangement involving three people
g. Polyamory, in which participants have multiple romantic partners
h. Polyfamilies, similar to group marriage, but some members may not consider themselves married to all other members
i. Polyfidelity, in which participants have multiple partners but restrict sexual activity to within a certain group
j. Polygamy, in which one person in a relationship has multiple partners
k. Polyandry, in which women have multiple husbands
l. Polygyny, in which men have multiple wives
m. Plural marriage, a form of polygyny associated with the The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 19th-century and with present-day splinter groups from that faith. It is also associated with an evangelical splinter group which advocates Christian Plural Marriage
n. Open marriage and Open relationships, in which one or both members of a committed couple may become sexually active with other partners
o. Swinging, similar to open relationships, but commonly conducted as an organised social activity
Types of Sexual Deviancies
comprises people with a broad range of sexual fetishes
a. Exhibitionism – the recurrent urge or behavior to expose one’s genitals to an unsuspecting person. (Can also be the recurrent urge or behavior to perform sexual acts in a public place, or in view of unsuspecting persons.)
b. Fetishism – the use of inanimate objects to gain sexual excitement. Partialism refers to fetishes specifically involving nonsexual parts of the body. Ex: telephone scatalogia (obscene phone calls), necrophilia (corpses), coprophilia (feces), klismaphilia (enemas), urophilia (urine), emetophilia (vomit).
c. Frotteurism – the recurrent urges of behavior of touching or rubbing against a nonconsenting person.
d. Pedophilia – a psychological disorder in which an adult experiences a sexual preference for prepubescent children, or has engaged in child sexual abuse. Pederasty is an erotic relationship between an adolescent boy and an adult man outside his immediate family.
e. Sexual Masochism – the recurrent urge or behavior of wanting to be humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer for sexual pleasure.
d. Sexual Sadism – the recurrent urge or behavior involving acts in which the pain or humiliation of a person is sexually exciting.
e. Transvestic fetishism – arousal from “clothing associated with members of the opposite sex.”
f. Voyeurism – the recurrent urge or behavior to observe an unsuspecting person who is naked, disrobing or engaging in sexual activities, or activities which may not be sexual in nature at all.
Alphamegamia is the term used when you are sexually aroused by people of a different age group.
Chronophilia is a general term, applied to any age-related preference that is outside their own age group.
Ephebophilia is the attraction of older individuals to adolescents.
Hebophilia is the attraction of older individuals to pubescent youths.
Gerontophilia is the attraction of non-elderly individuals to the elderly.
Infantophilia is the attraction of older individuals to small children (ages ranging from 0 to 5).
Paraphilic infantilism is a paraphilia characterized by the desire to wear diapers and be treated as an infant or toddler (a.k.a. adult baby)
She works at a daycare. Jesus! An adult baby who works at a daycare???? What’s wrong with you woman??! I think I have seen enough for the day!